Good S*x... 4 Ways To Light Up Your Romance This Holiday

Written by Funmi Akingbade
Between preparation for celebration and Christmas parties, decorations, sending Christmas gifts, many couples, although not intentionally, forget the real reason for the holiday season, which is simple, HOLIDAY.

It means a break, a day off or leave from every other thing and concentrating on the most essential to the couple and family and the extended families. One of the biggest most essential things to the married couples is celebrating the gift of oneness which in most cases is usually being projected by the act of s*xual intimacy. 

S*x in a marriage relationship, when it’s good, can be amazing. 

When it’s bad, it can tear relationships apart. Everyone who has ever had s*x will know the strong emotional impact such an intimate encounter can have. Good s*x can have many wonderful physical and psychological effects, leaving you feeling great. 

It’s not just s*x that affects our psychological state during festive periods and leaves lingering memories, but couples’ state of mind has a huge impact on their s*x lives. That is the reason couples must find out time for intimacy in this season. 

So, while you are in the spirit of celebration, trying to take care of your family, friends and extended families, it’s important to give yourselves and your s*x a life; a prioritised treat especially when such holiday comes once in a year.

In a real-life situation, finding time [amid the demand of pleasing family, friends and others] for great s*xual intimacy can be a bit difficult between couples because of the mandate of the season. And in reality, the stress of preparing for the celebrations and parties, hosting family, cooking, and home decoration can take away from your time together and limit your opportunities for intimacy.

Here are few things you can do to preserve the closeness of your relationship during the season...

Just bear it in mind that stealing out time for s*x can be the best memories both of you can actually remember months after the holiday season is gone.

Number One … Be intentional about your relationship. It is possible for some spouse to believe that they may tell themselves that they will definitely have time to focus on their partner again once the holiday stress is over. But have you forgotten that the holiday rush is followed immediately by the back-to-work, school runs, house chores, and more-behind-than-ever catch-up, [ and we all know that the list is just unending], which just continues to pull our attention away from the primary relationship that is supposed to nourish and sustain us. 

Sad to say this, but in our culture, we tend to take our relationship for granted, and in doing so, we miss the point of the holidays. In every tradition, the holiday season is meant to celebrate relationship, nothing more nothing else. So, during the holidays, more than ever, married couples must purposely prioritise a time to celebrate "us".

Think about how you can nurture the three areas of your relationship – practical, functioning, good communication, friendship and oneness; s*xual intimacy and closeness. Ask your partner to write a list of actionable, measurable and time-limited ideas that would make them feel loved, cared for, and appreciated in each area. Choose and commit to doing two in each category each week during the holidays.

For instance: ‘Kiss me when I do not have my makeup on, or kiss me when my snoring disturbs you throughout the night. Hug me in the kitchen when I’m doing the cooking for the holiday (and offering to help! or help me out with the supervision of my work). Give me lots of time to become arou-sed, give my s*xual fantasy a push. Risk something new in the bedroom just for me.’ 

In fact, both of you can read one chapter from a s*x book together, and afterwards give yourselves a raw s*xual bath.