10 Irrefutable Signs to Tell You When to Break Up in a Relationship (Must Read)

Madeleine Knight gives the all important signs that things are over in a relationship. These signs cannot be ignored because if it is, you stand to be surprised and embarrassed out of the relationship.


These are your giant, bullfighting-sized red flags. Get the hell out of there when you notice these.


1) Her laugh starts to grate on you 

That belly laugh you always thought was slightly manly but contagious now sounds like Janice from Friends. Every time it happens you have a strong visual of Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh or the hyenas from the Lion King. Ain't nobody got time for those animations floating around in their brain.


2) You'd rather go out with your mates than her 

Once upon a time, all you wanted was one-on-one time. You hung on her every word and would have loved to be stranded on a desert island with her. Now you recognise all of her stories are on re-run and if you were in Tom Hanks' situation in Castaway you'd much rather have Wilson the football as your friend than her. "Whenever she suggested hanging out, just the two of us, I would pretend I had promised friends to meet up as a group, then desperately call everyone to try and find some!" says Andrew, 35.


3) The way she eats starts to annoy you 

"Conversation had totally dried up at the dinner table and I started to focus on her chewing," said David, 28. "It was like it was on loud speaker and totally repulsed me." You may have once wanted to lick that spaghetti sauce she slurped into her mouth and all over her face right off but now you just don't tell her it's even there. Because you don't give a shit.


4) Your dreams are far too obvious 

Your anxiety about your relationship situation affects your sleep. Duncan, 35, says, "I used to wake up in sweats after dreaming I was on a plane that had lost it's engine. As the plane went down I looked out the window and saw things flying past the window: other women from my past, a ticking alarm clock, my mother shouting 'What are you doing?!'.. You don't need to call Mystic Meg to interpret that."


5) You start to think you don't want your children to look like her 

You've had discussions about children in the past but these days the prospect makes you feel nauseous."My ex named our children-to-be Victor and Hugo (she really didn't recognise the weirdness of that combination..) I used to join in baby name convos but nearing the end of the relationship I would zone out thinking 'If my children had your nose, I think I would top myself,'" admits Sam, 29.


6) You can openly admit to yourself you're just too scared of her reaction 

You've seen how she shouts at the waiters when they don't remember to bring her salad dressing "on the side" and how she thought the extra onions came diced not sliced. Basically you don't want to be a diced sliced side onion when she finds out you're offskis. The fact you are scared about being an onion in the first place is not the sign of a healthy relationship. If this is what is stopping you, you need to man up and face the music. Unless you can't win her in an arm wrestle – then we can't help.


7) Sex feels like a chore

When she gives you her come to bed eyes, you literally look everywhere else rather than return the gaze. But when she is physically on top of you, summoning up your truncheon with a furious wrist-shake, it's impossible to avoid. If you're lying back and thinking of England – it's not your hormones – it's time to get rid.


8) You daydream about relationships with other people 

There are mixed opinions on whether this is a natural thing to do even in a happy and stable relationship. Occasionally one might wonder "what if things were different" but if your answer to that question is "they would be better" then it ceases to be wondering and becomes yearning. John, 34, says, "When I was with Philippa* I would see random women in the street and play out what a relationship with them would be like in my head. It would make me resent my girlfriend of the time even more – that she was holding me back from these idyllic fictional relationships. We were way past our sell-by date."


9) She's miserable - all the time If you start to notice her comments become more and more pessimistic, she is never hopeful or enthusiastic, rarely smiles, doesn't want to do new things – this could be a telltale sign that you're making her as unhappy as she is making you. "It turned out my girfriend hadn't quite plucked up the courage to leave me. She was miserable and in turn making me miserable. Maybe this was a subconsious thing so I would break up with her..." Relationships are supposed to make your life better and everyday pessimism can drive you into the ground.


10) You find her in bed with your dad.