Sweet S*x: How Long Should You Last In The Bedroom?

Many people would describe s*x as good, exciting, electrifying and refreshing, especially if done with consent and in a favourable atmosphere.

The benefits identified to be derivable from the exercise include improved immunity through the increase in the levels of immunoglobulin A; reduction of blood pressure; a good form of exercise; reduces pain as well as brings about the release of feel good hormones; reduces stress and the likelihood of prostate cancer in men and improved bladder control in women.

But the question is, How long should good s*x last?

Interestingly, the duration may not really matter in determining whether the benefits would be derived or not, and according to experts, the duration does not even matter when it is done for procreation.

But findings have shown that longer s*xual inter-course does not only boost a man’s ego, it helps him to enjoy the act. While for women, the longer the act, the more the likelihood of them reaching org-asm.

According to a study by two scientists, Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani, from the Pennsylvania State University in the United States, good s*x does not necessarily have to last for hours. In fact, they said it could last for minutes. In their post on Science Daily, they noted thatsatisfactory s*xual inter-course should actually be between three and 13 minutes.

The researchers involved 50 members of the Society for S*x Therapy and Research in the study, and these members include physicians, nurses, psychologists, marriage and family therapists and social workers who have attended to thousands of patients over several decades.

These participants categorised the time s*x should last, according to experience, into four, namely too short, adequate, desirable and too long, and the measurement of the time starts from the penetration of the vag-ina to the actual ejac-ulation.

The experts categorised s*xual inter-course that lasts between one and two minutes as “too short”. They said if it lasts between three to seven minutes, it is “adequate”, if it is between seven and 13 minutes, it is “desirable” while any ro-mp in the sack that lasts between 15 and 30 minutes is deemed to be “too long.”

The researchers pointed out that some people mistakenly judge their performance or that of their partner by the dictates from the society, and not what is okay for them.

The research said, “A man’s or woman’s interpretation of his or her s*xual functioning as well as the partner’s functioning relies on personal beliefs developed in part from society’s messages; formal and informal. Unfortunately, today’s popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about s*xual activity. Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large pen*ses, rock-hard erec-tions and all-night-long inter-course.”

Corty, who is an associate professor of psychology, said their survey would help to rekindle people’s confidence in themselves and trim down on their fantasies, noting that the situation at hand had made people to have unrealistic expectations.

He added, “This seems a situation ripe for disappointment and dissatisfaction. With this survey, we hope to dispel such fantasies and encourage men and women with realistic data about acceptable s*xual inter-course, thus preventing s*xual disappointments and dysfunctions.

“Also, if a patient is concerned about how long intercourse should last, these data can help shift the patient away from a concern about physical disorders and to be initially treated with counselling, instead of medicine.”

The goal of s*x is for both partners to be satisfied, such that they would reach org-asm. Regardless of the time it takes, as long as both parties are satisfied, the deed had been done.